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No, completely kidding. In truth, the distance is really starting to gnaw at me. I'm a strong and independent girl, and I've found a thousand ways to keep myself busy... but that doesn't take away the stab of disappointment I feel every morning when I wake up to face another day apart, especially since our reunion in Berkeley is not a "when," it's an "if."
I'm waiting for the stars to align (in other words, I'm searching for a job in CA) and when they do, I'm going to be so grateful to be with Adam again. I'm so very thankful to have him in my life- and it's occurred to me that I need to tell him more often. Better yet, he should feel appreciated every day in our house.
I'm determined to make decorating our shared space into a much more collaborative project so that our apartment is a reflection of both of our tastes.
Upon reading that last sentence Adam is likely uttering the heavy sigh that he usually reserves for trips to Ikea (even though he's always amply rewarded with a heaping plate of Swedish meatballs).
Can't understand why he's not happy to be standing next to that handsome Edland cabinet...
Any other cohabitators out there who want to get in on the discussion?
5 Have Spoken.:
I'm single, so I can't truly relate. But I have thought about this. I think if a relationship I was in ever got to "that point" this would be a real challenge for me to compromise on. I have such certain ideas about my taste and I'm not used to negotiating with anything but my budget. Maybe I should stick to men who leave that kind of thing up to me??
Jane- Just wait until you see tomorrow's post. I must have been pretty naive, because all this time (4 years) I've just assumed that Adam LIKED the way I was decorating. Turns out he just thought it would be easier not to pick that fight, and when given immunity he's pretty outspoken about his tastes.
It's frustrating for me to compromise (because I'm always right)... but, amazingly, I've discovered that he has a really interesting aesthetic. It's not identical to mine, but it will blend well, and I'm excited for the challenge of pulling it all together in our tiny apartment. Hell, I'm even excited to argue about it a bit- I'll defend my decor to the death!
Oooo! This is getting interesting! I commend your committment to listen to Adam's opinion. But to actually change your decorating ideas for him? Makes me wonder if I've been selfish through the years not consulting my husband.... Good for you!
Hey Liz,
I don't think the fight will result in death, but if it does it will be the death of my manhood and self-respect.
Paul has all the style in our relationship. I just fumble around and find things I like that aren't totally offensive. :-)
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